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Date: Sun 26-Sep-1989 17:08:18 From: Unknown Subject: bad manners jst@cca.ucsf.edu (Joe Stong) Writes: >I know that Avadis, in his own way, is trying to be helpful. >I appreciate that he wants to help, but I would like to get across >to him that some kinds of "help" serve to make me livid. I have done >my best not to flame him to death, even though I feel like it. >He might do better to be silent, and let people who have answers >come through. He probably feels unappreciated. I do appreciate >some of the overall technical niceness of the NeXT. I don't like >the diety-like attitude of telling me what I can and cannot do with >the computer I'm working on, and being asked to work on. It is important to know what can and cannot be done with a particular system, and it is not a "diety-like attitude" to inform others what actions fall into which catagory. >I realize that tekkies have a tendency to be gratuitous. I've tried >and thought of a lot of things that folks re-suggest to me as if I >could never have though of them myself. This particular problem >can be overcome a lot by assuming intellegence and some wits >on the part of the listening party and suggesting: .... Now you're blasting those who made useful suggestions just because they had no idea what steps you did and didn't do. Suggestions are usually made to help you, if you don't get the answers you need it may be because you didn't provide enough information when you asked the question, or because you're trying to do something that can't be done. Neither case justifies blasting those who try to help--it only alienates them and lessens you chance of getting help next time. -Rob followups to alt.flame >From: halliday@cheddar.cc.ubc.ca (Laura Halliday)
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